From the day we’re born, I believe that our hearts are on a continuous journey for home. I also believe that our Papa God wired each and every person on the face of this earth this way. What do I mean by this? Our final destination, final resting place to be with God for eternity. Sadly, some people may not even know what I am talking about or what this means.
Both my Mom and Dad are in their 80’s. My Dad is 87, and my Mom is 84. Bless her heart, she says all the time, “I’m 80!” And I tell her, “Mom, you just keep on saying that because that makes me 4 years younger than I am also!” (I’ve placed a picture of my sweet little Mom and Dad at the end of this post that was taken in 2004.)
My precious Mother has dementia. Some days are better than others. She is always wanting to go home, exclaiming that she doesn’t know why she is where she’s at, and it’s not her home. “I just want to go home” she says, which is almost always followed by asking, “Where’s my Mom and Dad?” In her confusion, she can’t understand why she is not at her house. I had to get on the phone one day and tell her that her Mom and Dad were resting. She said, “What do you mean resting? I don’t understand!” I was trying to find a clever way of telling her gently that they have both gone on to be with the Lord.
I have a good friend that (along with her siblings,) takes care of her Mother that has dementia. She has been doing this for about 8 years now. I have learned so much from her. This has helped me and will continue to help me with my Mother. God places people in our paths to help us in our time of need. He’s like that, He loves us this way.
My Mother gave her heart to Christ at a young age. She was raised in a loving home that was centered around faith in the Lord. She was the middle child, with an older sister and younger brother. Both her brother and sister has gone on to be with the Lord. Her Mother, my “Granny Trotter” was a homemaker, who kept her house spotless and would sweep you right off of her front porch or toss you off of her bedspread if you were sitting on it! My Mother’s father was the Chief of Police here in Cleveland years ago. She has always said that everyone loved “Chief Trotter.” I believe this, I’ve always heard wonderful things about him. He had a very kind and loving heart. He passed away a little before I was born. My Granny passed away a little after Kevin and I were married. (The picture of my Mother at the top of this post was taken while she and her family were visiting friends in Miami, Florida in 1949. I love this little picture of my Mom, she looks so relaxed and happy, and she was.)
With my Mother continuously saying that she wants to go home, makes me wonder if her heart is yearning for a place of no more pain and no more tears. Even with dementia, is her heart yearning to be with her Mother and Father?
I can’t even begin to tell you how my Mother’s dementia breaks my heart. A lot of the times she doesn’t know who my Father is. Talk about breaking your heart. This truly breaks his. One night on the phone with me, I didn’t have to see the tears gathered in his eyes, I knew they were there as he was telling me that my Mother doesn’t know who he is sometimes.
Even though this is so tough and very sad for all of us, we have to find an element of laughter. Laughter is indeed the best medicine! My brother and his wife will tell us when they’ve gone to see Mom and Dad and some of the funny things she has said to them while they were there.
She is forever trying to figure out whose red car is parked under their car port. Every morning she asks my Dad, “Whose little red car is that? When are they coming to get it?” and every morning my Dad says, “Now Martha, you know that’s our car.” As I’m writing this, Kevin and I went by to see my Mom and Dad today and I noticed that my Dad has pulled their little red car out from her view while she is in the house!
For those of us who have a personal relationship with Jesus, I believe that we are on a “spiritual adventure.” This is an adventure like no other that we have or ever will experience!
“God himself is right alongside to keep you steady and on track until things are all wrapped up by Jesus. God, who got you started in this spiritual adventure, shares with us the life of his Son and our Master Jesus. He will never give up on you. Never forget that.” 1 Corinthians 1:8-9 MSG
I’m so thankful that my Mother and Father know Christ as their personal Lord and Savior. And so ever thankful they brought me up in His love and to know Christ as my personal Lord and Savior.
Some may think that my Mother is not on a “spiritual adventure.” How could she be, with loosing her memory? I choose to believe otherwise. My Mother’s walk with Jesus has been a spiritual adventure for years, and is still going on! Even with her dementia, I believe that her heart is yearning for home. Although I have tears in my eyes right now writing this about my sweet Mother and her loss of memory functions, I have a sweet and comforting peace that her Papa God has put a little of heaven in her heart.
“The Spirit of God whets our appetite by giving us a taste of what’s ahead. He puts a little of heaven in our hearts so that we’ll never settle for less.” 2 Corinthians 5:5 MSG